A few days ago, a young man killed a college student at the entrance of tambaram railway station. It was reported that the two had been acquainted for some time and after that, the woman avoided talking to him and so the angry young man got involved in such an incident. In recent times we have been constantly noticing news like this. Being brave enough to kill a woman without being able to accept her rejection of herself raises many questions.

It is the extension of the outrageous conservative masculine thinking that a woman should be subject to herself, that she should have no personal preferences, that she should think of herself, and that nothing else is important to her, that pushes one into such a state of mind. Chasing a woman without her consent or forcing her to fall in love with him is forced into the movies as a heroic image. These young people, who take these screen heroes as their role models, start doing this act of crime with a little bit of guilt. If a woman rejects an order, the men have several reasons for it, and the woman has every right to reject him even if there is none; The man must realize that it is not the woman's fault in any way. This community needs to instil that feeling in him.

In general, a family organization has a responsibility to nurture morals in children. From respecting fellow human beings to developing goodwill towards society, one should get everything from one's family. But are our family systems in a position to say that? Most of the families here are the ones who protect the caste system from all its prejudices. Family organizations also uncompromisingly defend gender discrimination. Our family structure, which is easier for a man, develops controls if it is a woman. Our families have many differences in raising a boy and a girl from an early age. Seeing this, the man grows up with the idea that the woman is inferior to him from a young age. So, he does not think that violence against a woman is wrong. Sometimes it is also celebrated not only from the cinema but also from one's own home.

When a person grows up without the slightest concern for morals or respect for fellow human beings, the family and the community should take care of it from the beginning and streamline his actions. When he commits a crime he must point it out as wrong and make him understand how dangerous violence or hatred is. We need to cultivate a mindset that accepts failures. The primary purpose of our education system should be to cultivate students in this way and to cultivate morals within them. But in an education system where scores are the mainstay, morals are being pushed back a long way. 

A student who buys a good score may be without any morals in personal life; No one cares about that. The family system must adhere to the rules of raising children without male-female discrimination, treating women equally in the family, respecting their decisions, allowing their freedom, and carefully avoiding male-centred rhetoric. Family members need to express it, not just in words, but in their actions. A boy who grows up watching it will naturally grow up to respect women and understand their feelings. Men who grow up like this have the maturity to fully realize their status when dating or divorcing a woman and to accept her decision.

I think with the advent of social websites, the deeper relationship between modern-day youth has diminished. A generation is emerging that magnifies personal selfishness rather than bonding over a relationship. I feel to the younger generation today that self-fulfilment is more important than the mutual love and mutual recognition in a male-female relationship. This self-image makes them tense when questioned or rejected; Through it all, they lose their temper.

Being superficial without a deep understanding of any subject, being easily emotional and politically ambiguous, loneliness without any attachment to anyone in the real world for the recognition of social websites, and thus the spontaneous humility and jealousy of fellow human beings are all prevalent in today's youth. 

As a mature society, we all have a role to play in preventing such incidents from happening in some way. We can never achieve a solution to this problem without an open-minded approach to where we go wrong in making the future of our youth prosperous, protecting them from such violent incidents, and nurturing them with humanity and diminishing human dignity.